Clarity & boundaries coaching · Zürich & online
You're not overreacting. Something feels confusing for a reason.
For people living between cultures, places, or roles, where one relationship keeps leaving you off balance.
Not because something is wrong with you. Because you've been carrying this alone for too long.
Certified Trauma and Resilience Life Coach through the Arizona Trauma Institute.
Who this is for
You've spent years being fair to everyone but yourself.
This may fit your situation if:
- You're living between cultures, places, or roles, and the rules around closeness, guilt, and respect don't mean the same thing to everyone involved.
- One relationship, a parent, partner, in-law, or someone at work, keeps leaving you off balance.
And it may fit how you feel if:
- You understand the situation, but you still feel stuck in it.
- You feel guilty right after setting a reasonable boundary.
- You keep explaining yourself to someone who does not really want to understand.
- You're tired of asking "is it me?" and want a steadier place to think.
This kind of pattern rarely stays contained. It starts costing you elsewhere too — your energy, your other relationships, your sense of yourself.
You do not need to be in crisis to ask for support. We start by making sense of the pattern, not by judging the relationship. Not sure whether this fits your situation? The free 20-minute call is for exactly that.
About me
Robine Mandersloot
I'm Dutch, living in Zürich, married to my Indian husband, and a mother. My own life sits inside the kind of complexity I coach through: different cultures, different rules about closeness, guilt, and respect, all under one roof.
I have a background in psychology and health science, and I'm trained in trauma-informed coaching. I'm drawn to the relationships that are hard to explain from the outside but deeply destabilizing from the inside: a parent who never quite hears you, a partner conversation that leaves you doubting yourself for hours, the friend who quietly drains you.
We do not rush past the nervous system. We do not force clarity while you are overwhelmed.
I don't believe in quick positivity, and I don't believe in staying in the story forever. I believe in seeing clearly, trusting what you already sense, and choosing your next move with more steadiness. You do not need to prove that it was "bad enough."
Psychology & Health Science · Certified Trauma and Resilience Life Coach, Arizona Trauma Institute · Based in Zürich, working internationally
Certified through the Arizona Trauma Institute — click to view and verify the credential directly.
My approach
We start small. Not with "fix your whole life."
We start with what is actually happening, then build from there — at the bottom, not the top.
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Step 01
Regulate
First, because little else works while your nervous system is still bracing.
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Step 02
Clarify
What is actually happening: what was said, what was implied, what gets denied.
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Step 03
Recognize
What you already sense, but have been talking yourself out of.
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Step 04
Choose
The smallest clear boundary worth holding.
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Step 05
Practice
Not as a one-time conversation, but as a steadier way of showing up.
Clarity is not cruelty. A boundary is not a punishment. It is information about what you will and will not participate in.
Coaching options
Start small. You don't need a whole program to get a clear next step.
Prices shown in Swiss francs. Booking and payment are handled securely via Calendly, which processes payment in EUR. The CHF amount is the fixed rate; the EUR amount at checkout may vary slightly with the daily exchange rate.
Free Clarity Call
A short call about what you're dealing with, and whether working together makes sense. No pressure.
Free
Book this callSingle Clarity Session
For one specific thing: a conversation to prepare for, a decision to untangle, a boundary you're unsure how to hold.
CHF 50 founding rate
Book this session4-Session Clarity Package
Understand the pattern, rebuild self-trust, and leave with a real plan: what to say, what to drop, how to prepare.
CHF 180 founding rate, all 4 sessions
Book your first sessionOngoing Coaching
For deeper or repeated dynamics, in any relationship, worked through at a pace that's sustainable.
Priced after your first call
Start with the free callGood to know
Questions people usually have first.
What kinds of relationships do you help with?
The ones that are hard to explain from the outside but destabilizing from the inside: a parent or in-law who never quite hears you, a partner whose words leave you doubting yourself for hours, a friend or colleague who quietly drains you. Often, though not always, these sit across cultural lines — where guilt, closeness, and respect mean different things to each person involved.
I keep wondering if I'm the problem. Can coaching help with that?
That question is often exactly where we start. When someone repeatedly leaves you confused, second-guessing yourself, or feeling guilty for reasonable boundaries, the confusion itself is information. We look at what is actually happening — what was said, what was implied, what gets denied — so you can trust your own read of the situation again.
Is coaching the same as therapy?
No. Coaching is not therapy, diagnosis, or crisis care. My work supports reflection, clarity, self-trust, boundaries, and next steps. It's trauma-informed, but it doesn't diagnose or treat mental illness. In a crisis, or if you need clinical care, therapy is the better next step.
What if I'm not ready for therapy, or I'm already in it?
Both work. If therapy feels like too big a step right now, we can start smaller: steadying your nervous system until the harder work feels possible. If you're already in therapy, this runs alongside it, helping you stay resourced between sessions. There's more on the science of why we start with regulation if you'd like it.
What happens on the free clarity call?
It's 20 minutes to talk through what is going on and see if working together makes sense. No pressure, and no obligation either way.
Where do sessions take place?
I'm based in Zürich and work internationally. Sessions take place online, so you can join from wherever you are.
What if my situation isn't "bad enough"?
You do not need to be in crisis to ask for support, and you do not need to prove that it was "bad enough." We start by making sense of the pattern, not by judging the relationship.
How does payment work?
Prices are shown in Swiss francs. Booking and payment are handled securely via Calendly, which processes payment in EUR. The CHF amount is the fixed rate; the EUR amount at checkout may vary slightly with the daily exchange rate.
What if I need to reschedule?
With 24 hours' notice or more, you can reschedule at no charge, as availability allows. With less than 24 hours' notice, or a missed session without notice, the session is considered used. Full details are in the coaching terms below.
Next step
You don't have to figure this out alone.
The first step is small, on purpose: 20 minutes to talk through what is going on and see if this is a good fit. No obligation either way.
Book a free clarity callPrefer to write first? hello@robinemandersloot.com
Coaching, not therapy
Coaching is not therapy, diagnosis, or crisis care. My work supports reflection, clarity, self-trust, boundaries, and next steps. It's trauma-informed, but it doesn't diagnose or treat mental illness. In a crisis, or if you need clinical care, therapy is the better next step.